Week/End

weekend

SALE ALERT!: Remember those jeans I couldn’t shut up about in this post? They’re currently part of Shopbop’s Big Event sale — it’s a tiered sale, so if you spend $250, you get 15% off your entire purchase, then the savings scale up from there. Use the code BIGEVENT15 to get the savings! I took advantage of it this week and bought another pair of those J Brand jeans (they really were that good, y’all), as well as these Sam Edelman booties that I’ve been eyeing forever. I’ll basically wear them year round in San Francisco.

YES, I JUST SAID SAN FRANCISCO: If you follow me on Instagram, you might’ve seen the big news. Joe and I are moving back to SF at the end of this month! I have been working on a post all about the when and why for days now. I have a lot to tell, but it’s almost hard to figure out how to tell it. Look for that early next week — I’m forcing myself to get it all out this weekend! We’re very excited.

OPTING OUT: I read this essay earlier in the week about opting out of motherhood and haven’t been able to get it out of my mind. If you’ve ever been in the camp of wondering if you wanted to have kids, you’ll enjoy this.

DECORATING INSPIRATION: Moving (to a 6th apartment in 5 years. Send help.) means we get to decorate again! We’re probably keeping much of our furniture and only adding a few new pieces, but this week, Tobe’s beautiful home tour on Design*Sponge got me inspired. Her home is so colorful, feels lived in, and has lots of brass. What’s not to love?

ROSE & IVY: I didn’t get to tell you last week, so I’m a bit late here, but to put it on your radar, the new quarterly issue of Rose & Ivy has been released. Remember when I talked about it here? Alison has done another gorgeous job of putting together what’s very obviously a labor of love (and good taste). I know you will enjoy browsing through this!

DON’T ASK, JUST DO: Every single one of these suggestions for how to truly be there for friends in need is on point. Bookmark this one, and then live by it.

OR ON FLEEK: I almost wrote “on fleek” at the end of the first sentence in the previous bullet, which led me to Googling where the hell that phrase came from and how it wormed its way into my vernacular. Here, a brief history. 

LIKE RAYS OF SPRING SUNSHINE: I love this simple DIY for copper and white succulent planters! Something to try if you’re feeling crafty this spring (it’s super easy, too).

It snowed in New York twice this week, and some days, it honestly feels like winter will never end. It was fun for two seasons, but I’m glad I’ll never have to put up with an east coast winter again! There has been so much going on the last two weeks I don’t even know where to begin. We basically decided we were moving two Mondays ago, and in that time, listed our apartment in NY, rented a new one in SF, and hired movers (along with lots of other little moving-related tasks). It’s been crazy. More next week…

Until then, I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

 

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Discoveries

discoveries

this great article these fashion drawings this patterned print this honeycomb wine rack this essay this book

Just a few little things that have been on my radar, that I thought I’d put on yours. Here’s to a great week ahead!

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Focusing where the flow is

flow

I’ve been having a hard time blogging lately. Like, a really hard time. A pulling teeth hard time. Intermittently, it puts me into a panic. Should I be working harder on posts? Spending more time finding cool things to tell you about? Hiring someone to help? Historically, blogging has always been such a priority for me, and typically, it’s come pretty easily. I’ve had slumps before, but this one has felt long and heavy.

I could tell you it’s been hard to find inspiration, which is true, but it doesn’t mean I have been uninspired. The truth is, I’ve been feeling very creative lately. I’ve had several web design projects that have challenged and pushed me to my creative limits, and while exhausting, it’s also been invigorating — I look forward to hitting my desk every morning to work on them.

I could tell you it’s been hard to find the time and energy, and, well, that part certainly is true. In addition to said projects, I have some big, all-consuming, turn-your-life-upside-down things happening over here behind the screen. I’ll share more with you soon (prepare yourself for quite the story time), but let’s just say they involve a moving truck. Recently, it’s felt as if my work is the thing that’s kept me sane, some buoy I can hold onto and anchor me amidst all the other chaos swirling around the rest of my life.

Yeah, when I take a step back, it’s pretty obvious why it’s been hard to blog.

The funny thing I have realized is that when I ignore the guilt and frustration I have around not being able to manage and fix this one tiny part of my life — writing a blog — things fall into place pretty seamlessly. I hit a stride, a flow. When I worry about it too much, it completely derails my day. I can’t tell you how many mornings I have recently spent trying to write a post, only to come up with nothing, feel bad about it, then spend the afternoon working on projects that are both higher priority and more satisfying creatively — though with a slightly panicked pace, because I’ve just wasted hours trying to blog. Worrying about this one thing also seems to be what tips my anxiety over the edge. It’s like I can just barely manage all the other stress, but this blogging conundrum tips the scales and makes everything feel unmanageable, collectively.

All this to say: I’m not quitting blogging. But I am learning that sometimes, when you find your groove, your current, you just have to hop in and float with it. Fighting the current will only exhaust you.

At this exact moment in time, blogging isn’t part of the flow. When I don’t fight the fact that I’ve felt uninspired in this particular space, the clouds part, the guilt lifts, the inspiration arrives, and most importantly, I feel more balanced and like I can get on with my day (and without that painful, worried knot in my stomach). Perhaps in this instance, focusing on the flow is a stop gap, albeit a highly effective and necessary one. I think sometimes in life, deep down we know perfectly well what’s good for us and what makes us feel good. But we ignore it, because we’re stubborn, or feel like a failure if we let go, or just want to feel like we can do it all. I am here to tell you (and myself) to focus where your flow is. If in life something just isn’t working for you at the moment, focus your energy elsewhere — the place that makes you feel productive, inspired, and like you’re home. Energy, like a current, can easily shift, so it’s not as if you can’t or won’t be back again. In the interim, don’t force the pieces that don’t fit. For me, I have faith that the pieces will eventually all come back together again, and I’ll have a new perspective to share when they do.

Do you have anything in your life that you’ve previously tried to force or had a hard time letting go of, only to feel a whole hell of a lot better once you did? What’s a current you’ve been trying to swim against…or swim with?

 

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Image via: Better Than Stock, by Business Betties, text graphics added by Victoria McGinley