Wait, don’t answer that quite yet. Earlier in the summer, I mentioned in a post that I had casually been asking a few girlfriends how they and their significant other — boyfriend, partner, fiance, husband — handled money. I got a comment from a reader (hi, Holly!) mentioning that I should put a post together with what I’d found. I started to do just that…but then realized it’d be way more interesting to survey a whole BUNCH of people, regardless of whether I knew them personally.
So in true nerd form (in college I thought my first job would be as a market researcher, seriously), I built a survey that I’d like to invite you to take. You can find the survey here. Of note: this is anonymous. You’re welcome to input your first name or a pseudonym at the beginning of the survey, or choose to stay anonymous (note: the first name will only be used to attribute quotes that I’ll publish in the results blog post!). I’m not capturing any other identifying info, such as email addresses.
If you’re not currently in a relationship but would like to participate, feel free to take the survey based on a past relationship, if you feel it makes sense and is relevant. Because I’m especially interested in the qualitative (i.e., written) responses you guys provide, all insights and anecdotes are welcome!
Finally, I want to emphasize that whatever your responses, there’s zero judgement! This is simply a casual exercise to share what real life couples are doing, to hopefully give everyone some perspective, ideas, and resources.
I’ll leave the survey open for a couple weeks, then create a follow up with the results. Please feel free to forward on if you have friends who’d want to participate! I’m really curious to see the diversity of responses (or perhaps not!) and what solutions and compromises all of you have come up with in regards to a complicated subject in any relationship: money.