In January of this year, I celebrated 4 years of owning my own business. I can’t believe it’s been that long; more importantly, when I look back, it’s insane to think about how much the business has evolved (heck, how much I’ve evolved). In the spirit of chatting more about behind the scenes business schtuff around here, I’ve been reflecting on some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from running my own shop. While oftentimes tough to integrate, thinking about their outcomes now, these nuggets have also gotten me through the roughest of days. Here they are!:
We live in this culture that’s encouraging us to dream bigger, to hustle, to always be doing and growing. It’s rocket fuel for the even marginally ambitious person, but I truly believe that once this messaging permeates your daily subconscious, it can also be paralyzing and even detrimental. How so? Well, if you’re anything like me, when I’m not dreaming bigger or hustling or doing or growing, I tend to be really hard on myself. I get that nagging voice in my head that says I’m not doing X enough, or I should have done this, or why didn’t I do that. Is that voice familiar to you, too? It makes me effing miserable.
I’ve learned to combat it by saying to myself: it’s ok, I forgive you. Maybe that sounds totally new age cheesy, but it works. Sometimes at the end of a long day, where I’ve powered through 95% of my to do list, I’ll look at the one or two items left and think, ugh, if I had woken up an hour earlier, I could’ve tackled those. It’s taken some time, but I then try to tell myself, it’s ok, I forgive you. Truth is, I probably needed the extra hour of rest, those items will get done first thing tomorrow, and most importantly, not finishing two things doesn’t take away from the success and accomplishment of completing all the others.
Try this a few times, and you’ll get really good at it. I’ve learned to forgive myself for not posting here more, or to Instagram more, or documenting more of my days on Snapchat, or even tackling all these growth strategy projects for my business. I figure I’ll get to them eventually, and even though I still battle that minor panic about not tending to the right parts of the garden (so to speak), as a solo business owner, you really have to step back and be comfortable with the discomfort.
Another way to look at forgiving yourself is that you don’t have to be good at everything. Which leads me to a lesson that’s equally as important: Read the full post +