This topic, believe it or not, was actually broached by a former co-worker of mine over drinks the other night. And it came up both out of curiosity, and because it makes for an interesting topic here on the blog.
“Do you think you’ll change your last name once you get married?” he asked me. When we briefly discussed the merits both for and against name changing, he said, “You should write about it!”
He’s right. It’s a compelling question and one that, like he suggested, is perfect for a Real Life chat.
For me, the name change thing is fraught with lots of personal complications. Some of you have probably figured this out, or maybe even just wondered about it, but my last name is Irish, and clearly, I am not. I was adopted at age 6 months, so for me, my last name has played a big role in my identity (for better and for worse, no pun intended). There’s also a far bigger piece. My father passed away when I was young. So, for a long time, I thought I’d never change my last name — that it would be painful to give up that part of me, this huge piece that shaped many, many facets of my life. However, as the time draws nearer, my feelings go back and forth.
In a logistical sense, it’s probably easier for me to have the same legal last name as my husband, especially if we ever have a child. Everyone always talks about how much of a pain it is if you have a different last name than your kid (hmm — is this true? Or just something people say?). However, professionally and in my online life, my current plan is to keep my maiden name. Vmac just works much better than the alternative…trust me.
If you’re married, did you change your last name? And if you’re single, do you think you’ll change your last name if you ever decide to get married? I feel like the last name change used to be a given, but that lately, I’ve come across more and more women who feel meh about it. Why do you think that is?