I had a real life friend ask me if I was going to feature Joe, my fiance, in The Man Behind the Blog Series. It’s not the first time I’ve been asked, but it does touch upon an interesting subject that’s definitely related to the column and something that any blogger can sympathize with, whether they’re in a relationship or not — boundaries.
The answer to the question is no, Joe likely won’t ever be featured. You’ll also never see a photo of him, including any photos of us together on our wedding day. It’s his own personal preference, and I completely respect it. But it puts us into some interesting situations when I have chosen to put much more of my own life online! It can be a tough balance to blog authentically and tell you about important parts of my life (especially the parts he’s involved in, which are a lot!), and yet, not reveal as much, because I have his boundaries to consider.
I had lunch with another friend a couple weeks ago, who moved in with her boyfriend fairly recently. As a gal living on her own, she was the consummate host, always putting up out-of-towners on her couch or letting people crash last minute, for as long as they’d like. When she and her guy moved in together, she was quick to do the same, and be as gracious a host as ever (and now one with a spare bedroom!). Her boyfriend, however, soon pointed out that it was his home too, and he’d prefer if she asked him first before hosting people for days at a time. Makes total sense. I guess I’ve had to apply that same logic to the blog. I love you all, very much so, and am happy to host you when it only affects me. When it affects Joe though…I have to ask him first!
I’m the first to admit that I do sometimes wish he wanted to participate in these types of things, and I envy all the ladies whose guys have been featured and will be featured. But I also respect his boundaries, 100%, and would never push them.
If you’re a blogger or a person who put lots of aspects of your life online, how do you handle it when it affects other people, especially friends and family? Are your significant others, friends or family members okay with you sharing their images or very personal stories about them?